my main objective with triathlon has always been to find like minded and ideally like fitness level folks to ride and swim with. i'm NOT big on chatting during a run (mainly because of lack strength and coordination to give either my all simultaneously) not that there's anything wrong with socializing, i just feel for me a workout should be mostly workout with a little socializing thrown in not the other way around.
during TNT training last year i met a woman in my general vicinity location wise. she was a total newbie in every sense of the word and i kinda took her under my wing . sometimes i'd workout a bit earlier on my own to be sure i got whatever my goal was that day and then we'd meet up for whatever we had planned . turns out swimming is our best activity because while we're there for moral support i don't feel like i have to talk or walk or double back as often like i would need to if we ran or rode together.
we haven't seen each other in a few months, but keeping contact via FB. i called her today and just spent several minutes trying to nail her down to a swim. she told me about a beach she wants to check out...i say "cool, let's plan on swimming" to which she replies "i want to just check it out, i don't know how deep it is...blah blah blah" so, since we've had successful swims at Lake Anza, i suggest we meet there instead because while i'm interested in visiting, my time is limited and i'm more interested in working out. it takes us so long to reconcile our schedules and when we finally can hook up i've been annoyed when it turns into more of a get together versus a workout.
after hanging up i feel a bit off about things because i had to push her a bit to commit....something i have to do on a regular basis with the patients i work with. the last thing i need is to feel like a facilitator/cheerleader on my free time. i'm far from hardcore. i'm seriously slow and i've been dropped plenty of times from group rides but i workout and try to be present . walk breaks are fine, but when it turns into a 1/4 mile yack fest it's stops being a workout for me.
i know she's not the right workout partner for me but for now she's all i got. hopefully i'll connect with some folks in triclub at the end of the month. i'm still on the fence about actually racing but i love the cross-training aspects of triathlon and maybe i'll find a kindred sole or two that i wont have to "work" to workout with!